every few months rich people start up a new debate about how often you should shower and all of them have the very strict opinion that it’s at least once a day despite consistently being told that 2-4 times a week is actually better for your skin unless you’re getting downright disgusting every day. they’re always absolutely appalled. like every time i see an interview with some random rich person they are DISGUSTED by the idea of not showering every single day. i genuinely can’t tell if they’re always serious or just embarrassed by their habits but i can say with 100% confidence that these rich people would not survive one day with any poor person i’ve ever met
You people aren’t showering every day???? Not even a quick rinse in the morning?????
If we applied consent rhetoric to men the way we apply it to women:
It’s not cool to kill a dude :( Unless he explicitly asks for it :) Then it‘s totally fine. In fact, it’s not uncommon for a guy to have a death wish (whips out statistics about male suicide). It’s a way for them to process trauma, so you’re actually helping them <3 And honestly, even if some men resist a homicide attempt, they’re gonna die anyway, am I right ;) (whips out statistic about lower male life expectancy)
one thing you start to notice when you become involved with feminism is that misogyny never makes the list of things wrong with the world. that thing people do in speeches and posts where they list prejudices for emphasis and it always goes “racism, poverty, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, amen.” and women are forgotten
cannot stop thinking about how good the fabrication of consent in squid game was… like yeah, the participants consent! over and over, from agreeing to the slapping game to ringing up the number of their own accord to meeting at the location to signing a separate sheet once more upon arrival… they can even disband the game if the majority decrees it. but this is all performative. because of course they’ll agree - of course they’ll come back.
the second episode is even all about addressing this ‘consent’, and that potential audience superiority: “so why don’t they just leave???? if they can??? why did they even do all this to start with?? it’s so extreme, to do all that just for money, i would never”
because, the show says, look at what they’re returning to. look at the life that’s offered as their alternative. debt up to their ears, money-brokers beating them up, poverty at its worst. do you see? do you see how yeah, joining that game is optional, but it’s optional in the sense of choosing to be stabbed or shot: theres consent, but not actual desire. that theres agreement, but under exploitation. there’s a reason only poor people are chosen to compete and it’s so obvious but i fucking love how the show handles it and addresses any audience superiority anyway
When will y'all start having this conversation about prostitution too? Y'all believe these vulnerable women choose to do it? Y'all truly believe that sex by coercion is not rape? Y'all think that consent can be bought?
love how op removed this response from the notes lol
Op is weak hypocrite lmao
“…theres consent, but not actual desire. theres agreement, but under exploitation…”
OP I’ve never read a more concise yet nuanced analysis of prostitution…oh wait..
The lack of body
hair on women looks weird. We all
know women grow body hair, the fact that you can’t see it on almost any woman
in real life or media is weird. It’s supposed to be there. Its
normal for it to be there. And we know it’s not removed just in a second, or
just once, imagine how many hours and hours of removing it women spend in life,
if they have to do it every few days or every week? That is not normal. We all
could have been doing something else than removing hair that is supposed to be
on our bodies. Our body is wasting nutrients by having to regrow it. Female
body free of body hair looks weird, stripped and objectified, appropriated to
the look of underage girl. That is weird. I can’t believe we let it get this
far.
Our body hair is supposed to be on our bodies.
Nature keeps telling us that. We shouldn’t fight back our own nature. We should
fight back the shame and those who convinced us lack of body hair is the only
acceptable version of our bodies. What the goddamn hell is up with that. That
is not normal thing to think about a female body.
Tiktok brain rot girls will be like I’m not a woman I’m a person therefore I’m nb…….. please just say you don’t think women are people it would make it far easier
my biology professor has such a chaotic energy about him, last week i went to his office hours and somehow we ended up on the topic of gay marriage:
he said that when he lived in texas they changed the law to define marriage as “between a man and a woman in a house of religious worship with the intention to have children” so he filed his taxes as single and when they called him up like “you filed married last year” he was like “you changed the law, i was married by a judge in a courthouse and i have no intention of having kids” and they told him “you know who that law was for” and i guess he hung up on them and did not, in fact, pay taxes as a married man that year
Chaotic good
NO! This is Lawful Good! He is following the LAW! Chaotic doesn’t just mean cheeky!
this is like how Sweden stopped classifying homosexuality as an illness because people started a campaign of calling in gay to work
malicious compliance is one of the best tools in the arsenal of civil rights activism
deeply unhappy that the definition of a “pick me” has changed from:
a girl/woman who desperately wants male approval at the expense of other women
into:
a girl/woman who doesn’t wear makeup/shave/wax/get botox/get cosmetic surgery and speaks to other women about how it’s harmful
But I suppose that is the danger of any terminology that criticizes womem…it will always be warped to again benefit men.
Not just with the “pick me”, but also the “I am not like other girls” jokes are slowely turning from criticism of girls helping/upholding patriarchy or internalised misogyny to just another way to other feminists and gnc women and girls
yep, pick me was meant to be similar to handmaiden, where they would do things that harm themselves AND other women in order to attain male approval. think female anti feminists and redpillers. think women who call other women “dramatic bitches” and talk about how “guys are just better to be around”. the women that, when cheated on, attack the woman and not their cheating boyfriend. i didn’t really like its use too much but i understood it.
but once again it’s proven that a pejorative term can NEVER be created for a group of women without it just being turned into a misogynistic insult to shut all women up. it’s probably just better to describe what they do, even if it takes a lot more time and writing/words.
more parents need to understand that teaching children to ask why rules exist is positive and valuable. teaching kids about authority–and that authority is not always right, and when and how to question it–is a fundamental step to preparing them for adult life.
do it right and you won’t get disobedient kids, you’ll get kids who think critically
I’ve mentioned this before, but my parents introduced a system where if they tell you to do something and there’s a reason you can’t do it, you can ask “May I appeal,” and they’ll listen to whatever new information you have to present and either revise their command or tell you to do it anyway. This serves a few purposes: first, it’s really funny to hear a four-year-old use legal jargon. Second, having a system in place for protest that isn’t whining, complaining, or outright disobedience makes things easier for the parents. Third, it fosters an environment of mutual respect. The child knows that his reasoning is taken into consideration when the parents’ decision is made, and the parent knows that the child may have legitimate reasons for not obeying a command, while still reserving the right to the final decision.
I do remember telling a teacher that her request was “out of her jurisdiction” in kindergarten so it can backfire just FYI
1. this first comment opened a whole new world for me, I adore this approach
2. to the second commenter: I see ZERO DOWNSIDE to this
One of the most powerful tools I had as a child was the knowledge that all other adults merely had a delegated grant of authority from my parents and some things indeed were totally out of their jurisdiction. Many adults did not appreciate this but my parents also backed me to the hilt.
deeply unhappy that the definition of a “pick me” has changed from:
a girl/woman who desperately wants male approval at the expense of other women
into:
a girl/woman who doesn’t wear makeup/shave/wax/get botox/get cosmetic surgery and speaks to other women about how it’s harmful
But I suppose that is the danger of any terminology that criticizes womem…it will always be warped to again benefit men.
Not just with the “pick me”, but also the “I am not like other girls” jokes are slowely turning from criticism of girls helping/upholding patriarchy or internalised misogyny to just another way to other feminists and gnc women and girls
